Christine Arylo

Choosing ME before WE

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In today's world, over 30 years since the start of the women's liberation movement, it's hard to argue that women and girls have more opportunity than ever before. They can choose their career, relationships and life paths with far more freedom than previous generations. And while that is great news, today's statistics tell us that how girls and women really feel about themselves hasn't changed nearly enough:

• 1 in 2 women will marry and divorce. 20% in the first 5 years. Next to losing a child, divorce is the most stressful event of someone's life.
• 1 in 3 women will find herself in an abusive relationship before the age of 20, 80% will go back.
• 75% of women will develop a eating disorder at some point in her life, 10% a life-threatening one such as bulimia or anorexia

With all the talk and programs about self-esteem, why aren't these numbers changing? Christine Arylo, inspirational catalyst and self-love expert, says it's because self-esteem only takes you so far. "A woman with self-esteem may appear confident and successful, however, if she doesn't have a deep and unwavering sense of self-love, how she feels on the inside about herself is a totally different story. That's why you see seemingly successful women in bad relationships, struggling with eating disorders, or driving themselves to achieve at the cost of everything else. Today's woman knows she can do anything, but she now feels pressured to do everything, perfectly and right now. While we may now be able to claim equality to men, we've created an entirely new jail cell for ourselves in which we can never do, be, have or give enough, although most of us will exhaust ourselves trying to get there."

Arylo says we are having a self-love crisis, one is which women are silently beating themselves up for everything they aren't, and one in which women are still looking for love and acceptance on the outside vs. the inside. "Until we deepen the conversation and start talking about and teaching self-love, this isn't going to change," says Arylo. "We will just keeping passing these same self-destructive patterns onto our daughters if we don't break them ourselves."

Bio

At the age of 30, Christine Arylo received a major wake-up call when her fiance ended their relationship on the car ride to their engagement party, leaving her face to face with the realization that her abundance of self-esteem but a lack of self-love had almost careened her into a marriage and life she never really wanted.

Today, Arylo, a former mba and marketing executive for companies like Gap, Visa and Frito-Lay, writes, speaks and teaches girls and women around the world about self-love. She is the author of Choosing ME before WE, Every Woman's Guide to Life and Love; a certified life coach and founder of Dare to Live You Coaching; the host and voice of Self-Love Studio; and a sought out expert on the topics of love, relationships and being a woman in today's world. She continues to be a recurring guest on TV shows on ABC, FOX, and CBS as well as radio stations, internet shows and blogs around the world.